Talking about sex and intimacy is great, but it only gets you so far. Research on brain plasticity tells us that creating new experiences—particularly those that involve emotion and sensation— is far more effective at helping you change your habits and build greater confidence.

That’s why when it comes to sex and relationships, it’s often more useful to actually practice these things. My approach focuses on helping you experience the erotic and relational feelings you desire, which is the fastest, most effective way to achieve your goals. Once we uncover the tools you need to learn, I will teach you the skills you need to have more connected, passionate, and satisfying sex and relationships.

The key to doing this is experiential, embodied learning that offers practice in vulnerability, arousal, communication, empathy, and passion. There’s a lot of “doing” in this type of sex and relationship coaching, as well as an emphasis on listening to your body, not just your mind.

Increasing pleasure and intimacy is a process that requires trust, respect, and genuine connection. As your coach, it’s my role to facilitate a professional relationship that feels mutually vulnerable and rewarding for both of us—that way, I can give you real feedback on your habits, skills, and growth. By acting as a safe, non-judgmental container, I can assess your sexual and relational strengths and challenges, and help draw out your unique erotic imagination and desires.

When you feel secure in your desires and are able to speak about them with honesty and empathy, the whole world opens up. You might notice that it’s easier to connect with others, set boundaries, resolve conflict, and go after what you want. Relationships may be easier to come by. Goals may become easier to attain. You might feel more settled, less anxious, and more motivated to engage with the world. Most of all, you might finally feel like you—and that’s the best feeling in the world.